Saturday, April 4, 2015

Black History Month February Edition


   When people say “its old and it doesn’t matter” is the most insensitive and unintelligent thing a person can say. Whew now that that is off of my chest, let me tell you what I mean. Today is February which is also Black history month. I read an article today about that they have found more unreported lynching of negroes in the south ( over 700) . I decided to read the comments and man how disappointing is it. You would be surprised how many people say “get over it”, but man this is supposed to be America. America is all about legacy. We have holidays based on history and legacies, but why when we bring up slavery and the atrocities committed in this country that people cry “race bait” ? Nobody asks how did America become the power it is today, or how we became so wealthy. How about why companies are billions ahead of everyone else ?  Let me tell you. America is built on free labor. Before mass production slaves made everything in this country that required work. Let’s take a look at who profited and was built by slaves briefly.  The entire tobacco industry, Lehman brothers, Aetna, Chase bank, New York Life, USA today (the paper), the railroad companies, Most of the major banks and larger financial institutions were built off of the slave trade. Slavery was Americas first GNP and first currency and status symbol.  So with wealth being built off of the slave trade is quite relevant because it’s still around today. So we can celebrate the wealth and achievements in this country but we should turn our heads to the victims and those held back.

   Let’s talk about relevance and how the repercussions are still felt today. “follow the money “ is one of my favorite sayings. As an insurance professional over the last 8 yrs. There was a process called redlining that was used even until the 80’s. the practice of redlining was to limit the amount of insurance allowed to black people. Life insurance and various other insurance products were used as tax shelters and also the #1 source of transferring wealth in the world. With insurance products it allows for wealth to be recycled without touching the actual money. So when a community or region can recycle wealth it keeps the money revolving and also helps to maintain business and the foundation for legacy. With nothing to pass down imagine how the next generation has to work just to get even ? I digress. In this country if you look at the major industries and the Titans of those industries, go back and look at when they were built and you can see directly how that setback of  not being allowed to have anything benefits whites. The NFL is a sport that I love but, there are no black owners and never have been. Most teams were founded in a time when blacks could not own a team and had to drink at separate water fountains. The NFL generates billions that blacks only have access to through being employed not by owning. Take that and multiply it by every industry in America and tell me that no one benefits from blacks not being allowed in. People will say what they want about blacks have ample opportunity and they are correct right now is the greatest time to be in America for anyone. We have access to education and jobs that were not previously allowed.  My thing is that people wonder why blacks complain about the “man” it’s because he is still all around us with the benefits to boot behind our labor. People say what their parents and grand parents accomplished and built in this nation and they can speak proudly. But say one thing about slavery and how that institution and watch the island you will be left to. People don’t want to acknowledge slavery because it requires a sense of owing somebody. People feel responsible for something they didn’t do and are forced to acknowledge the benefits that come with being in this nation and also look at blacks with a deep feeling of remorse. Now I have no idea how to fix this just like you my white brother, I don’t know where we go next. I don’t know how to acknowledge it either. So don’t feel like you have to turn your head cause you don’t want to look at the scene of the crime. Which is where denial comes in at .


Denial is a strong word and what people do is use the old bait and switch of false equivalency. People will say the holocaust But I mean the holocaust lasted for just 7 years from 1938 to 1945. Let’s do a quick comparison . The first slaves were brought to America  to Jamestown Virginia in 1619 and the end of the civil rights movement was in 1968. Just 47 years ago. Hmmmmmmmmmmm . So that’s like comparing a sip of water to an ocean. Another thing they say “whites were slaves too” whites were enslaved in particular the Irish. The Irish were transported to the West Indies and the Americas and actually mated with slaves. They endured the same atrocities as the negro. But not to minimalize their plight because they too went through it . But as time went on they integrated with society namely their second generation. As they mated it was easier for them to join white society because after a while you really cant tell the difference. In the history books you may be able to find that there were Irish slaves but I dare you to tell me when it stopped. Now the Irish did have civil wars going on but again, that part really isn’t American history is it ? Also you will hear “blacks owned slaves too” This is a true myth blacks did own slaves. These slaves were called mother ,father, son, daughter husband and wife. They always leave that out. There were also black owned plantations,  that is until a white felt a negro unfit to own his or her farm and burned it or simply took over without any police recourse. History won’t tell them that part. People will always use these tactics to minimalize what happened. Im here to tell you that no one can. It happened but I refuse not to acknowledge the beneficiaries and those who still suffer because of it. This is the American negro struggle , this is the plight of what we face. This is a very unique situation in comparison to the rest of the world. But unlike where other atrocities happened and were given reperations of some sort like the natives . The American natives have their own and although they can relate to the current struggle of the negro. But they have something to call their own. The American negro has nothing nor an identity to claim and daily we see our little history demeaned and dismissed as irrelevant. I am the son of slaves…….. Either get right or get left, but you will get it

Saturday, February 21, 2015

What Do You Bring To The Table?

Welcome all, this will be my first blog attempt and I want to set the table on whats to come.  First I’d like to thank yall for listening and enjoying the Kings show and website and I hope that we are touching you in a positive light. I would like to start off with something that has been tearing me apart inside lately. It was a question that was asked of me several years ago that I never quite understood. The question was “ What do you bring to the table ?” Now I always thought the correct answer was that “Im a good man I have a career and my own car and house”. I always considered the answer to be the things that Im supposed to be doing as opposed to the correct answer ( Boy was I wrong ) that I will be hitting on . I’ve realized after several  relationships gone bad by whatever reason and just growing up what the answer to that question is .Now as I’ve grown I kinda have an Idea about what I bring to the table and ultimately that would mean what Im looking for and that translates to what I won’t accept . let’s go deeper.

         How I came to this realization was I recently went back and enjoyed the company of an ex after I went through a breakup and as I talked and conversed I realized the problem was still there.  For one I knew that I would always have love for this person and that I was not in love with this person.  Secondly I thought to myself of myself even though I was single again, I was doing myself no favor by seeking company and not being to myself. So I went into “ Dough mode”. I’ve found resolve in being single and comfort in just being to myself. I have no worries, no drama , don’t gotta rack my brain on being cheated on, I can eat what I want and where I want , there is no nagging , no arguing, nobody asking what Im doing with my money, I can go where I want without question, There is no complaining, no worrying when she will pay for dinner , no baby momma or baby daddy drama, no crazy exes, no meeting “the men friend” who used to be hittin that. No awkward silence, no disrespect, no lies, no games , no stress .  It’s just love and peace. My life is peaceful and I love me. And as I thought about these things I realized that these are not just the things I don’t have to deal with, but these are also the things that I bring to the table. And since I bring this to the table why should I have to entertain someone who would take away from that. I mean as I choose the next mate or get chose I imagine that she will need to compliment this not subtract from it. In plain English she needs to have her shit together. Now Im not saying Im perfect or am I saying that my story is completely figured out,but I don’t come with those typical issues so she won’t have to deal with these  issues My question is “ Why should I “. Why should I have to deal with less than what Im offering. Now I don’t mean financially, I don’t mean sexually , but Im talking peace wise. At this age we all should have had our fair amount of numbers when dealing in swap, so at this point its about substance. I really wouldn’t deal with a girl just cause Im sexually attracted to her. Im single with no kids so time is not something I look forward to wasting. I mean it will take a lot for me to want to take a chance at risking my peace just for a sexual conquest. Im  a valuable commodity outchea

          One of the Kings asked me several years back a question that I truly understand now. He said “ what is the most valuable thing a woman can give a man “ . Now young me said “her sexuality” that to me was a true sign of a womans value how often she kept it to herself to translated to a superb value similar to a stock but I digress. The brother told me the answer to the  question was “ peace”. Peace was the greatest thing that a woman could give a man. I never understood because I never had that that peace and ultimately it is a cornerstone of happiness. So again I cannot stress enough that my life is not perfect but I am happy and I won’t apologize for it. You would be surprised at the type of games people play out here or you may be out here participating, but when do you ask yourself if youre happy. How long until it is no longer about racking up numbers and you start to value what you bring to the table. Look at atheletes, actors, hell even people who get out the hood we always ask why do these people leave and not take the person they been with along. I mean as I see it why should they ? Why would you carry someone who would compromise your peace and your accomplishments . I cannot believe the time I wasted on not realizing this. The relationships I should not have been in and avoided as well as the relationships I ruined by bringing my baggage into them.  Now in closing. I am not telling anyone how to live their life or what is best. But if you’re like me and in your 30’s and single then maybe you need to take a step back from the game and try something different. Hanging on to dead end relationships for sexual or financial benefits may be why you’re being setback and missing out. I don’t care what anybody says no one likes being single and I do believe everyone wants a relationship, but just not any relationship. But keep in mind the baggage you’re holding onto may be used against you in the court of love. Get right or get left but you will get it.


                                                                                                                      Best Wishes,
                                                                                                                  DoughBama 4 the people